I am a guide for women who feel captive to their thoughts, and I can help you break those chains through Christian life coaching.


Do you believe there’s more to life than what you’re experiencing now?

Did you know that most people have an average of 60,000 thoughts a day? Sixty thousand!

All day you’re thinking. Positive thoughts, negative thoughts, neutral thoughts about all kinds of things – yourself; relationships with your spouse or significant other, children, parents, friends, coworkers; where you work or your job; where you live; what kind of car you drive; what your friends are doing; what you see while scrolling social media or news; the list goes on and on. All those thoughts affect you and how you feel about each of those people, places, and things I mentioned above, and they affect how you feel about your life. Those thoughts make you feel great… or not so great… about someone or something, not the other way around.

Your thoughts become your life.

Let me say that again for my fellow skeptics: your thoughts become the building blocks for your life.

Here’s an example of what I mean.
Let’s say I talk to my 86-year-old mother on the phone, and she says, “I know you’re busy, but I wish you would come see me more often.” Immediately, my heart beats more rapidly, and I get a tightness in my jaw.
Why?
No, it’s not because of her.
It’s because of the thoughts (and feelings) I begin to have:

  • I don’t make time for her. (guilt)
  • Nothing I do is ever enough. (inadequate)
  • Other people visit their family members more often. (embarassed)
  • I can’t please her. (irritation)
  • She has no idea how many things I’m juggling. (anxious)

You get the picture.

I have a choice how I let that encounter affect me. I can choose to let those thoughts and feelings spiral into a tirade against myself and how I’m the worst daughter alive.

Or I can choose to reframe the whole thing, starting with my thoughts (and feelings).

Same scenario. I talk to my 86-year-old mother on the phone, and she says, “I know you’re busy, but I wish you would come see me more often.” Immediately, I become aware of my heart rate increasing and my jaw tightening, and I begin to think intentionally:

  • I don’t make as much time for her as she would like. (understanding)
  • I do what I can and let others take care of the rest. (nurturing)
  • Other people visit their family members more often. (accepting)
  • It’s not my job to please her. (relief)
  • She has no idea how many things I’m juggling. (grateful)

I can choose to recognize she has thoughts and feelings I can’t control, but I can control my own. When I control my own thoughts and feelings, I can show up lovingly for her and have my own back knowing I am a good daughter who is taking good care of my mother.

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